Hi super awesome moms,
Being a single mom doesn't mean you don't deserve to experience a full and exciting life that is authentic to who you are, and what you want out of life. What is does mean is that with all of the single mom challenges you face, to get what you want, you may need to learn how to define and design those things into your life, based on your own unique circumstances. While all single moms share one thing in common (you are raising your kids as a lone ranger), how we became single parents, and what we value as single moms are all things that are specific to us as individuals. L3 Lifestyle Design is meant to help individuals define and design their own authentic life experiences in a fun, supportive and systematic way.
What is Lifestyle Design?
When people hear the term Lifestyle Design they often envision some super fit person, running on the beach in Maui, or with the Bulls in Spain. Kinda showing-off how awesome they are, if you will. But, L3 Lifestyle Design is more than pushing yourself to the limits and capturing it on Instagram. When done right, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you figure out how to steer your real life in the directions you really want to go. It can assist you in setting yourself on a course for personal empowerment and success. At it's foundation, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you take a deep and intimate look at the way you live now to help you make meaning of it and build upon it. It can help you to create a set of values and principles to guide you and keep you on your own path. And, when done with commitment and conviction, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you design your way-forward to a better life for you and your family.
Is it about running on the beach, doing Yoga on cliffs or embracing a Vegan lifestyle? It could be, if that's what you truly want and value. The goal is to get down to the very heart of what you really want, need and value, and to use those things as a basis for pretty much everything you do. So, if you really want to experience the wind in your hair as you drive down PCH ( Pacific Coast Highway), or booty bump-ups as you gallop down bridal paths on a horse in Austin's wine country, or to just have tea with someone you love while sitting on your own front porch at the crack of dawn, L3 Lifestyle Design will help you design those experiences and a million more, into your life.
Question: If you had an opportunity to do anything in the world, what would you do?
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AND remember this, be blessed, not stressed, Stacey
On Saturday May 19th at three o’clock in the morning, I lethargically rolled out of my bed to join the largest wedding watch party I’d ever been compelled to be a part of. In my robe and with my hair a complete mess, I sat on my sofa alone in the dark to watch as history unfolded. I knew that both Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, now the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, would make a lovely couple. However, it wasn’t them I was anxiously waiting for. By four o’clock I had coffee in hand, and I watched and waited for the moment when Doria Ragland, Meghan Markle’s mother showed up on the world’s stage. It was roughly six o’clock when the burgundy Rolls Royce carrying the Mother of the Bride and her lovely daughter was captured on film by CNN’s chitty chat heads.
Since the engagement of Meghan Markle to Prince Harry, my interest was really peaked about her mother, and what she must be thinking as her one and only child makes history. Based on articles I read and heard, I knew that she raised Meghan primarily as a single mother. If you know nothing else about me, know this, I love single mothers. Single mothers are the least touted humans, and some of the most targeted for negative stereo-typing, but the most worthy of praise and public support. Being a single mother myself, I know what it is to feel unsupported, so I wanted to support Doria and Meghan, but Doria first, and I wanted to see what I could learn from her. After all, she did raise a smart and talented daughter who is making history.
Doria showed us "how-to" keep our cool. As the mother of the Bride Doria was the epitome of a dignified woman and mother. When my daughter was married back in 2012, I was a mess. I realized at the last minute that I was no longer going to be her next-of-kin, and that I was not going to be in control of her fate, health or happiness anymore. I panicked. At one point I even changed my mind. I didn’t want to give my daughter away. She married a great guy and I love him like my own son, but initially I was scared. What I saw in Doria’s eyes as she watched her daughter and her new son-in-law make history, brought me to tears because I know what it feels like to watch your daughter pledge her life (the life you gave her, nurtured and supported), to another human being. It’s hard, but Doria held it together like a pro. But when she did tear-up, I teared-up with her, a salty sweet mix of joy, pride and fear.
Doria also showed us "how-to" be ourselves. As a woman of color, Doria showed up as herself and not a pressed and curled imitation of herself. As a woman of color in America, I’ve been struggling for years with how to show up as myself in the corporate space. Doria showed all of how to do it. I watched her as one single mother watches another for life altering hints and how-tos, and she certainly delivered. The first thing I noticed was that this beautiful woman showed up as herself. From her graying dreadlocks to the tiny stud in her adorable freckled nose. She made it clear that she was, and is a woman of both color and culture (cudos for that) and that she would not compromise who she is, even for the Royals.
I could gush on but I won’t. I just wanted everyone to know, I think she rocks really hard! As time pushes forward, I hope to hear more about Doria, and I hope her story is one we all come to know as a single mom success story. As a demographic, we could use a bunch more of those.
We all know however, we don’t have to be the mother of the Duchess of Sussex to be a successful single mom.
Everyday a single mom wakes and gets her kids to school safely and on time is a day of success.
Every day a single mom’s kids return home safely from school, practice, or their father’s house is a day of success.
So, press on single mums. Who knows, maybe your kid will one day lead you to the worlds stage, and once you get there be sure to take a lesson from Doria Ragland and show up as yourself, because like her, you are awesome, just the way you are!
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