Hi super awesome moms,
Being a single mom doesn't mean you don't deserve to experience a full and exciting life that is authentic to who you are, and what you want out of life. What is does mean is that with all of the single mom challenges you face, to get what you want, you may need to learn how to define and design those things into your life, based on your own unique circumstances. While all single moms share one thing in common (you are raising your kids as a lone ranger), how we became single parents, and what we value as single moms are all things that are specific to us as individuals. L3 Lifestyle Design is meant to help individuals define and design their own authentic life experiences in a fun, supportive and systematic way.
What is Lifestyle Design?
When people hear the term Lifestyle Design they often envision some super fit person, running on the beach in Maui, or with the Bulls in Spain. Kinda showing-off how awesome they are, if you will. But, L3 Lifestyle Design is more than pushing yourself to the limits and capturing it on Instagram. When done right, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you figure out how to steer your real life in the directions you really want to go. It can assist you in setting yourself on a course for personal empowerment and success. At it's foundation, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you take a deep and intimate look at the way you live now to help you make meaning of it and build upon it. It can help you to create a set of values and principles to guide you and keep you on your own path. And, when done with commitment and conviction, L3 Lifestyle Design can help you design your way-forward to a better life for you and your family.
Is it about running on the beach, doing Yoga on cliffs or embracing a Vegan lifestyle? It could be, if that's what you truly want and value. The goal is to get down to the very heart of what you really want, need and value, and to use those things as a basis for pretty much everything you do. So, if you really want to experience the wind in your hair as you drive down PCH ( Pacific Coast Highway), or booty bump-ups as you gallop down bridal paths on a horse in Austin's wine country, or to just have tea with someone you love while sitting on your own front porch at the crack of dawn, L3 Lifestyle Design will help you design those experiences and a million more, into your life.
Question: If you had an opportunity to do anything in the world, what would you do?
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AND remember this, be blessed, not stressed, Stacey
On Saturday May 19th at three o’clock in the morning, I lethargically rolled out of my bed to join the largest wedding watch party I’d ever been compelled to be a part of. In my robe and with my hair a complete mess, I sat on my sofa alone in the dark to watch as history unfolded. I knew that both Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, now the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, would make a lovely couple. However, it wasn’t them I was anxiously waiting for. By four o’clock I had coffee in hand, and I watched and waited for the moment when Doria Ragland, Meghan Markle’s mother showed up on the world’s stage. It was roughly six o’clock when the burgundy Rolls Royce carrying the Mother of the Bride and her lovely daughter was captured on film by CNN’s chitty chat heads.
Since the engagement of Meghan Markle to Prince Harry, my interest was really peaked about her mother, and what she must be thinking as her one and only child makes history. Based on articles I read and heard, I knew that she raised Meghan primarily as a single mother. If you know nothing else about me, know this, I love single mothers. Single mothers are the least touted humans, and some of the most targeted for negative stereo-typing, but the most worthy of praise and public support. Being a single mother myself, I know what it is to feel unsupported, so I wanted to support Doria and Meghan, but Doria first, and I wanted to see what I could learn from her. After all, she did raise a smart and talented daughter who is making history.
Doria showed us "how-to" keep our cool. As the mother of the Bride Doria was the epitome of a dignified woman and mother. When my daughter was married back in 2012, I was a mess. I realized at the last minute that I was no longer going to be her next-of-kin, and that I was not going to be in control of her fate, health or happiness anymore. I panicked. At one point I even changed my mind. I didn’t want to give my daughter away. She married a great guy and I love him like my own son, but initially I was scared. What I saw in Doria’s eyes as she watched her daughter and her new son-in-law make history, brought me to tears because I know what it feels like to watch your daughter pledge her life (the life you gave her, nurtured and supported), to another human being. It’s hard, but Doria held it together like a pro. But when she did tear-up, I teared-up with her, a salty sweet mix of joy, pride and fear.
Doria also showed us "how-to" be ourselves. As a woman of color, Doria showed up as herself and not a pressed and curled imitation of herself. As a woman of color in America, I’ve been struggling for years with how to show up as myself in the corporate space. Doria showed all of how to do it. I watched her as one single mother watches another for life altering hints and how-tos, and she certainly delivered. The first thing I noticed was that this beautiful woman showed up as herself. From her graying dreadlocks to the tiny stud in her adorable freckled nose. She made it clear that she was, and is a woman of both color and culture (cudos for that) and that she would not compromise who she is, even for the Royals.
I could gush on but I won’t. I just wanted everyone to know, I think she rocks really hard! As time pushes forward, I hope to hear more about Doria, and I hope her story is one we all come to know as a single mom success story. As a demographic, we could use a bunch more of those.
We all know however, we don’t have to be the mother of the Duchess of Sussex to be a successful single mom.
Everyday a single mom wakes and gets her kids to school safely and on time is a day of success.
Every day a single mom’s kids return home safely from school, practice, or their father’s house is a day of success.
So, press on single mums. Who knows, maybe your kid will one day lead you to the worlds stage, and once you get there be sure to take a lesson from Doria Ragland and show up as yourself, because like her, you are awesome, just the way you are!
Mobile Tech is "Mama's Little Helper"
Hi super awesome working mom. You work hard all day long and nights too. You could use a break, or at least some help. I think you deserve a special helper. One that can assist you in managing your life, home and career. Wouldn’t that be nice? Well guess what, you probably have one already but maybe you just haven’t trained it to do all of those things we just agreed that you deserve and need. It’s your mobile technology. Specifically, I am talking about your smartphones, tablets and laptops. Just like a puppy, once you train em you will love em like family.
Why aren’t you using your technology?
I would be willing to bet, most of you are not even using 10% of what your mobile device is capable of, and I know why. You simply don’t know how. Am I right? And, you don’t know how because it takes time to learn new stuff and maybe you just haven’t found the time.
A plan that might work
The thing is, new technology is overwhelming at first, but if you take it one small piece at a time, you will be amazed at what you can learn and do. If you pick just one feature a week to learn about, before you know it, you will have customized your devices to be the “mama’s little helper” they are capable of being. Just one a week. I would probably start first with learning about the device's features.
Where can you learn to use your mobile devices?
Start first with learning about your device(s), one at a time, before you focus on apps. YouTube and Google are your new besties and go-tos for quick and convenient tutorials. All you need to know is the type of device you have, google it and find videos. Most manufacturers have their own tutorials these days as well. It really is that easy.
So, pick a day and a time to learn about your device(s). Remember just one at a time. After all, you deserve to know what all they can do for you if they are going to take up space in your home and life.
Please be sure to share all of the tips and tricks you learn, and links to where you learned it with your gal-pal community (we need to work on that name) in the space below.
Peace and Blessing Moms
Hi super awesome single mom! Welcome, your tribe awaits you!
Welcome to Leap Learn Live the Blog! My name is Stacey Clark, and I am a supershero! AND if you are a mom, you are too. Own it!
Have you noticed that lately there are a lot of superheros in the spotlight? Interestingly, none of them are single moms like us. Everyone everywhere knows that moms in general are the world's true superheros, or should I say sheros?
A super-shero mom is no marvel, She's real all day every day.
With all that moms do for their families, and even their communities, you would think there would be more support in the world for their personal development, more monuments, holidays and free stuff. At a minimum, though there should be more support for working moms in the workplace, and policies that help, not hinder a mom's professional growth. With that said...
My tiara is tipped to all moms everywhere, whether you work at home or out in the world. In my eyes, the work you do, cultivating human beings, is bigger and more important than any other work done on this planet. All of you should know that I have nothing but love and respect for any woman who chooses to be a real mother. With that said...
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If you are a single working mom, or a single mom who wants to work, it's time to join the fold and get the respect, support and free stuff you deserve. The Leap Learn Live tribe is your tribe. A new band of sisters ready to support you and push you into the life you deserve. Our goal is #nomomleftbehind. Are you ready?
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