The holidays can be tough for single moms. But, there is a simple way you can add abundance to your holidays this year. Sometimes counting blessing can heal the pain of loneliness and despair.
An attitude of gratitude can heal your life, here's how...
Hi, I am Stacey Clark, the founder of Leap, Learn, Live. I want to share a very easy way for moms to beat the holiday blues, without spending any extra money. The golden fix comes in the form of savoring your fondest memories and your most cherished experiences. It's called gratitude and it can brighten the holidays,and change your whole life.
Gratitude is a gift to the giver…
Gratitude is often confused with appreciation, but it is different. Appreciation is what you give or show others when you have received something from them. Gratitude, is more reflective and internal. It is the way you see and feel about the gifts you are given. It's the way you internally receive the gifts you are given. With gratitude, everything that makes your life whole, rich, meaningful and possible is considered a gift or a blessing worthy of internal reverence and of outward appreciation. Gratitude is the gift we give ourselves by recognizing and fully processing the magnitude of even the smallest gift or gesture. Gratitude is good for your heart, your health, your spirit. So how do you practice gratitude? Let's look at a few ways you can start.
First - Focus on the important moments in your life.
Can you imagine the day you became a mother for the first time? Try to imagine the face of your baby, and the way you felt when you held your baby in your arms. If you can find it in your heart right now to be grateful for your opportunity to become a mother, you are on your way to healing.
I am sure, there are many other times in your life when your heart was full of joy and wonder. Make it your business to find those memories and to savor them, whenever you are feeling down.
Next, Forgive to find gratitude
I always say, if you visit a jail you will find two types of people there, inmates and guards, but at the end of the day, they are both in jail. When we find it in our hearts to forgive, we free ourselves. Which brings me to moms.
At some point in life we have all experienced a little , or a lot of mama drama. It is par for the course if you are human, and alive. However, mama has her story, just like you have yours, and you just happen to be a character in hers. On the day you were born, mom looked at you in the way you looked at your baby(s). She saw the world in your little eyes and she vowed to take care of you as best she could. The key words are, "as best she could." No one is perfect, no one. We all make mistakes. If mom is a little less than perfect, maybe cut her a little slack and figure a way to honor her for making your life possible.
The fact that you are on planet earth has much to do with mom. She had options, and she chose you, No matter her flaws, she chose you. No matter her capacity to raise you and take care of you, she still chose you. Her best may have not been enough to shield you from the pain of growing up, wherever you grew up. It may not have been enough to shield her. However, you are alive and the whole world is waiting for you today to do what you will. If it were not for mom, no matter her flaws, whatever joy you've found in life would have never been. For that reason alone perhaps you can release her from jail and both of you can be free, but more important you can be filled with gratitude.
Finally, make counting blessing a part of your holiday and everyday tradition.
Being grateful can change negative or mundane things into great experiences. As the late Zig Ziglar once said, you need to embrace and attitude of gratitude.
Say you are feeling discomfort at work. If you can remember that you have a job, and the job pays your bills and makes things possible, you maybe able to feel grateful for the job. Even if you don't like the work or some of your co-workers, feeling grateful will change your attitude and your aptitude and ultimately help you to enjoy the work.
Not everyone enjoys cleaning. Cleaning takes time and to me can be a bit cumbersome, but it has to be done if I don't want to live like a pig. Which I do not. The way I change the game is to clean as a gesture of my gratitude for all that I own; My clothes, my furniture, my car, my body. These things all belong to me and I am grateful for each of them, so when I care for them, cleaning is caring I am fully expressing my gratitude in the form of appreciation. And the opposite is true, people who don't clean of care for their stuff, don't feel grateful to have it.
With the family
Taking time to express appreciation for the life you share with your family is a beautiful way to show your appreciation for your family, and to turn the holidays in to a feast of blessings. An attitude of gratitude can change everything.
On your own
Being on your own, it can be particularly difficult to find reason to be grateful. this is because we live in a society that does not place much stock in folks being overly excited about themselves. If you really love you, some say you are conceded or selfish. Well I have news for you, the biggest gift you will ever receive, is you. Your body, your thoughts, your experiences they are all you. You have every right to be grateful for you, every little part of you. If you suffer with insecurity, it is because at some point, you were taught that you are not enough. You are! If you are reading this , you have much to be grateful for from the teacher ho taught you to read to the fact that you continue to do it on your own. You are truly amazing and you need to be fully grateful for everything you are. Try it.
If you want learn more about how to lead a life filled with gratitude and appreciation, join our program, Leap, Learn, Live - Lifestyle Design, We will teach you how to design everything you value into your life. In the meantime, take time to count your blessings and be grateful.
Happy holidays to you...
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